My 9-year-old son caught my husband in an unethical act. Since then, our boy claims he doesn't have to follow the rules because his dad doesn't. I'm tired of hearing this. What can I do?

No one is perfect and rules apply to everyone. It's how a person responds to making a mistake that determines the strength of character.

Dad needs to acknowledge the mistake, apologize for making a bad decision and describe the consequence that he paid or will pay to make amends. This will reinforce the concept that rules are for everyone, no exceptions.

If Dad avoids paying a consequence, then it is a problem between father and son. It will be difficult for your child to respect an irresponsible father.

You have a right to expect your son to obey family rules and enforce consequences when he does not. Seeing others - no matter who it is - make mistakes does not give your son permission to choose disobedience.

Don't speak for your husband when your son brings up this excuse. Tell him to talk to his dad about that situation. You stay focused on your son and his behavior.

I bought my granddaughter a little outfit that I couldn't afford. Her mom won't put it on the child because she thinks it's unattractive. How do I let her know that this is snobbish behavior and a poor example for my granddaughter?

It was generous to care so much that you chose something special. It is unfortunate her mom wasn't gracious. However, do you want to model imprudent spending?

Avoid this type of problem and give your granddaughter the ultimate gift of time together. Bake cookies. Go to the library to read stories. Take walks in the park. Draw pictures.

Give what you can afford and what only you have to give. Time with you is what the child will appreciate most. There's no question of taste about making happy memories.

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