I found a lot of electronics in my 14-year-old son's room. I don't know how to confront him, as I found them while searching without his permission. Should I ignore what I found?

While your son resides in your home, he has no right to total privacy. The important question is not how to explain your search but how to respond to your discovery.

It's your responsibility to monitor his decision- making and his behavior.

Your search found evidence that he may be involved in something inappropriate or possibly illegal.

Calmly confront your son with the findings. Don't respond to objections about the search. Stay focused on the items you discovered.

Don't allow yourself to lose control and you'll have nothing to apologize for, even if he provides an acceptable explanation for what you found.

If he says the electronics belong to someone else, insist that he prove the ownership. Remind him that he can count on you to pay attention to him even when it makes him angry.

Kindergarten starts in a few days and my daughter is terrified. How can I help her?

Fear of the unknown is normal. It's OK to be nervous. Talk about what your daughter might expect.

Let her tell you what she's nervous about.

Assure her that teachers will help her. No one will expect her to know what to do. Talk about how she can ask for help. She can raise her hand to get the teacher's attention. She can ask a classmate. She can watch others.

Visit the school so she can see the classroom, the playground and the bathroom. Maybe she can meet her teacher.

This will help remove some mystery about starting school.

Have a parenting question? Call the Family Support Line, 303-695-7996 or 1-877-695-7996, 10 a.m. to 10 p.m. daily. The Family Support Line is a program of Families First, sponsored in part by the Rocky Mountain News.